Tirano, rebellious, quarrelsome, "when my son became the beast?. This is the stage, I said, soon will pass, or surprise, the stage is not over, in fact not going to end not until it matures, ie after the 19 at least. Do not know what to do with, and then something gets in your head, although it does take my authority meeting. This has nothing to do with what I dreamed of educating a child happy. In fact, fights are on the rise, the declining respect for me. I do not understand, because is so. Why does not understand that it is not bothering you want it, that what I really want, is to guide and give my best for him. Here are the answers.
Since they are small children, amprenden how to act by what they see as machines copiers reactions. As instincts become more savage, if from you guys saw wild reactions. If you scream quickly to any complication, if it comes to discussions instead of calm down and deal with the problem calmly and cool head, everything is scheduled in your brain, but did not realize neither you nor him.
works now so the mind of a teenager. His ideas are so childish that even they understand them, The danger here is that their safety and strength is so great that before any indication can be bothered, explodes unscrewing all exhaust outlets. What must be done against it is to change the whole approach of his vision of you and the world. Teens are locked, totally focused on their goals, which can be almost always a computer in his room, the square on the street, the party on Saturday, his girlfriend. What you do is Irlo taking that and closer and closer to you, it takes effort, continuous work and a lot of patience, but of course you can.
The first step is to entice you, do not inentes by force, because that would change abruptly from a river cuncos in times of rain, let it do by itself. He will then begin the great journey home.
You have the authority of the house where he lives, but the best thing to do in these cases, understanding the authority dress. Promise something that makes you enjoy more of what they do, but what you promise has a price. For that price you're going to fix, keep in mind that spending time with you, it takes effort, that somehow you and attracts you most, who inadvertently steals time activities.
Example: You know I will have a party next Saturday, now, not to tell you, you talk to him and tell him to buy a new shirt if it helps you on Thursday LaBar trucks, or help you work from home or help you fix the old car, a work that is work of two, it will steal time to go out that day at night and quedrá with you. Of course I accept, as his friends can go on other days, but for a new shirt for Saturday's party, of course for you.
Another example: The boy does not leave the computer on all day, talk to him and say, - son, I want to assure you of something you're interested .- A! This turns a reflection at the word you're interested, Propose-son, Bedri thee-well a better screen, or you can also tell you, better speakers, or a new seat or anything else that interests you-know Right? - Their eyes light up. Tell him you're willing to buy, but to get that extra money would you like to help you to shop or to help you wash the air limipiar the roof terrace, or go to cut the grass in a landfill. 1000% sure that it will accept. As before, it is the time when the output normally, it will steal time on their own and come near you. The accepted without conditions.
This is useful, but of course the intention is not to be buying their coexistence, the real intention is to open opportunities for parent-child talk, laugh, Borman anecdotes with him, talk about your day and that you speak of yours . So, with good communication, that is the gateway to Benveniste confidence, begin the grand return back from that hijo.Y that, of course, worth much more than a few well-intentioned bills. Join now
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